I’ve never written so extensively about a book before, but after having read Leadership and Self-Deception by the Arbinger Institute, I felt massively compelled to, as it’s one of the most (if not the most), insightful books on leadership I have ever read. Leadership and Self-Deception is a guide to becoming self-aware – by learning to see your faults more…
Difficult conversations – what are they? You know the one – the tough talk you really know you should be having but you just keep putting off. It could be a poor performance review, news that someone’s budget has been cut, a project has been delayed or the ultimate – you have to let someone go. Whatever the conversation, you’re…
This is an issue I see again and again with my clients. If, like my clients, you struggle with the idea of prioritizing your self-care over everyone else’s needs, then read on. Saying ‘no’ is about creating healthy boundaries around your time and energy; it is not about being mean or selfish or disregarding the wants or needs of others.…
Another way in which I see ‘not good enough’ showing up is when clients feel as if they are about to be found out – for not being ‘good enough. They feel they don’t really ‘belong’, that they are a ‘fraud’, or that they don’t actually deserve the role they have their accomplishments or the recognition they’ve received. Even the…
How to manage emotions at work This subject just keeps coming up with my clients! Whether it’s in the guise of how to manage anger at work (a big one for female leaders)… how to manage anxiety at work (and all of the ways it leaks out of us if we don’t), or managing conflict at work (or rather not,…
Imposter syndrome and how to overcome it You’re a fake, you’re a fraud and you’re about to get found out. Is this something you tell yourself on a regular basis despite all of the evidence and all of your achievements otherwise? If so, then you might be one of the millions of unfortunate people who suffer from impostor syndrome. Now,…
How to control negative emotions Anger, fear and sadness. The three main categories of what we view as negative emotions. Now if like me you’ve been feeling some of these or a lot of this is over the last three weeks, know that there is a really effective technique of dealing with them, and we all tend to have a…
Unhappy at work what to do There is another way. If you’ve been sleepwalking for the past couple of years in your job, if you felt disappointed if you felt disinterested, dissatisfied, unfulfilled. But you don’t know what to do about it. If you read all the self help books you’ve done some courses. You’re none the wiser. If you’re…
Then the next thing you did which interests me is that you called boyfriend. Yeah, you went straight to your primary attachment person. The person that’s a person who you would call if your car broke down. So I’m asking you all now to think about this. Who would you call in a crisis in the drama in anything? And…
Feeling wound up by certain people? Find out why and what to do about it