Our subconscious behaviours shape everything—how we lead, connect, and make decisions. But what if the very patterns that once helped you are now quietly holding you back?
One of the most effective ways to understand these deep-rooted behaviours is through the concept of “Driver” patterns—ways of thinking and acting that push us in certain directions, often without us realising it. While they may have helped us cope in the past, these patterns can also hold us back, keeping us stuck in cycles of stress, perfectionism, or overworking.
5 Hidden Behavioural Patterns That Block Personal Growth
The five Driver patterns influence how we approach life, success, and even our sense of fulfilment. Recognising which one dominates your mindset is the first step towards breaking free from limiting beliefs and reclaiming a sense of ease and clarity.
Be Perfect – You’re always striving for flawlessness. Mistakes make you uncomfortable. While high standards can help, the relentless pursuit of perfection can lead to burnout, anxiety, and a fear of failure.
Please People – You say yes even when you mean no. You put others’ needs before your own—often leaving you exhausted, resentful, or unsure of who you really are.
Be Strong – You never show vulnerability, even when you’re struggling. While this can look like resilience, it often leads to emotional disconnection and isolation.
Hurry Up – You rush through life like there’s never enough time. This driver may fuel your productivity, but it also creates constant stress and keeps you from being truly present.
Try Hard – You believe effort is everything. You push, overthink, and overwork. But more effort doesn’t always equal better results—sometimes it just leads to exhaustion and complexity.
Ready to Break the Patterns Keeping You Stuck?
Understanding these patterns is powerful—but change takes more than awareness. It takes intention. And this is exactly what I explore in my bestselling book, Screw Meditation!
Inside, you’ll learn how to:
Build confidence without chasing perfection
Set boundaries without guilt
Embrace vulnerability to strengthen relationships
Slow down without losing momentum
Focus on what truly matters
Awareness creates space for real change. Once you recognise what’s driving you, you get to choose a different way.
So… which pattern resonates most with you?
Noticing it is your first step. The next? Taking action
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